Behcet’s Disease is a bitch. It’s unrelenting and hard to detect what your day-to-day life will be like. I’ve reached out to various Behcet’s sufferers who discuss what they wish others knew about living with a chronic condition. I also reached out to chronic pain sufferers and never imagined I’d get this many responses. I’ve quoted individuals using their initials.
“I think it is difficult for people to understand that this sort of disease is not something which will get better. Because of the pain we suffer, there are often no drugs which will stop it. This is an incurrable disease, and drugs we are prescribed only reduce the symptoms, not cure them. Often the drugs have unwanted side effects which cause even more problems. As for remaining positive during bouts of pain, I try to have small goals, something I am looking forward to in the not too distant future, and I hone in on this to distract me. The most important thing is not to let pain rule your life.” -SK
“I think it’s important for people to know that doctors know very little about this disease and often times are guessing and rolling the dice! So it’s not us making stuff up or looking for sympathy, it actually is that the doctors have no clue!” -RM
“I wish others, especially family or friends, would listen, understand, encourage, use compassion, be a cheerleader for us, know that there is NO WAY we can make any of our issues UP! In regards to maintaining positivity when I am in pain or just function daily, it is a Must do for Me! I will not do it any other way! I make a point of being positive. I do have a high tolerance to pain…I cannot take pain meds because they are not good for my kidneys. I already have stage 3 Chronic kidney disease. I do NOT want to go to Stage 4 or 5…not good!!! Somehow I manage! And, I am an Old youngster! I do go to counseling to learn more about daily processing and whatever else I must do to stay strong! Love and Hugs to all!!! ❤ Go Warriors!” -PH
“I wish people understood that despite me being “happy” and “positive” all of the time, I am actually in tons of pain and that if I don’t try my best to be happy and positive then the pain gets to me too much. I wish people understood that I get up and fight each day to better myself and overcome my illnesses and that I push myself further than I ever knew was possible each and every day just so that I can get done what they can do easily.” -CA
“I just wish they would be more understanding about fatigue and shit immune system as I get sick easily.” -JR
“I have a difficult time going out so I cancel a lot, but still want to be included so I keep hoping that one of the invites I will feel well enough to go.” -AA
“That just because you may not SEE my pain, believe me when I say that I am in excruciating pain.” -DWA
“I struggle to concentrate and I have mood swings. I have to miss school and fall behind.” -RT
“I wish others knew how much I need emotional support, and not just told be told to deal with it. I need a hug sometimes.” -SD
“My brain is full of thoughts, plans & energy to plan all of the good stuff, but I can’t do it! Just cleaning dishes hurt my arms so bad that I need to go to bed after, friends don’t understand, neither does family, I hate to say NO to my grandkids, but they are seeing me in pain a lot more now. As soon as they see me they ask “Nana, are you in pain today”? It’s heartbreaking.” -AP
“My life has been put on hold. Work is the only constant at the moment. Some say I’m lucky Cos I can still work. Rubbish, I’m a widow I have to work. I go to work come home get dinner for 2 others clean up and go to bed. That’s not a life.” -JC
“The emotional pain, others lack of knowledge with no interest of learning abandonment is the worst. I am alone.” -JH
“That some days, it’s really hard to accomplish anything. And those are usually high pain days. I don’t mean to snap and be nasty, the pain is just too much for me to deal with and trying to be social just stresses me.” -SL
“Depression…it’s thick and swims around my head. Giving me highs and lows but mostly lows…” -MT
“That it will never go away. And when I say am in pain. Wish the doctor’s knew we need our meds just because another people do wrong by there’s doesn’t mean we all do. We need our meds to help us deal with the pain. We have good days and bad days. One day we go out and pay for it for the next couple days. This pain is not fun. There’s so much more I could say but it would be a Book.” -DO
“I would like people to know how hard it is to live with chronic pain and that I don’t choose to live like this and because of it I can’t be dependable because I never know when I’m going to have a flare up. I don’t choose to miss out on family get- togethers, events that are planned having to cancel last minute. I would want not to be judged but understood.” -DSP
“I hurt… all day, everyday. Just because I’m not crying or complaining doesn’t mean I’m not. I’ve just learned that neither really does me any good and just makes the people around me miserable. And I’m one of the few that doesn’t believe misery loves company. I work really hard at putting on a brave and happy face for the people I love.” -RM
“I wish others understood the hopelessness of chronic pain: the knowledge that I’ll never feel better; I’ll never have energy. Others don’t want to hear about it, so I don’t talk about it; then they think I’m ok. I’m not ok. I’ll never be ok. Sometimes I just need to talk, and need someone to listen, and hug me.” -HH